01102015 0751 am et updated feb 02, 2016 at 50, i was finally able to admit to myself that i was a lesbian. I have been married for over 25 years and have a daughter, 15. It can be a big shock or a big relief to realize you are lesbian when youre married to a man. That realization can lead to a big sigh of relief that the struggles youve been having sexually now make sense. in the midst of the dl craze some people forgot that there are a number of famous lesbians who were married to men even though their hearts lied elsewhere. I didnt know she was gay until she told me, after she said she had left the marriage. i was in a bar in chicago when i told a close friend of 20 years that, despite being a lesbian, i was marrying a man. the story of a marriage that transcends sexuality, gender and disability. the man-woman definition of marriage is not an insult it is an ensign, beckoning to anyoneregardless of sexual orientationthat the union of a man and a woman is of unique significance in. Dennis and linda anfuso met in art school, bonded over their interest in the wizard of oz, fell in love and got married. Dennis, 60, identifies as gay, and linda, 59, is an intersex woman who identifies as a lesbian.